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It's often difficult for parents and kids to get together for a family meal, let alone spend quality time together. Here is a section for more effective parenting, child-rearing tips that can help you feel more fulfilled as a parent by Vidya Shankar, a Child Rights Practitioner and a Montessori advocate for children. Founder of CASCADE Family Learning Services.

Sibling issues.

5) The elder sibling tends to bully the younger sibling in various situations. We believe that is part of growing up and let it be. We just tell the elder one to not do it. Is there anything specifically we need to say to the kids?

Bullying is a form of deviance. It needs to be firmly discouraged. It surely indicates that the child has been previously bullied. After the event, or even for preventing, during a much calmer time termed as neutral moments, we need to give an opportunity to the child to open up on his own experience heart to heart, asking the right questions. If the child is of Elem age, he/she will be able to reason out why he or she shouldn't be doing it later. Ask questions on emotions and feelings, and the control we can exert in being empathetic towards younger ones. Help him/her arrive at a conclusion rather than telling him/her not to do it.

6) While we shift to Chennai home when our school starts, we are thinking of this issue. In our native we are in joint family and have good neighbors and friendly children . So my daughter is engaged in a lot of playing activities with those children. But in Chennai we would be alone and there is no chance . or maybe less possibilities to interact with neighbours. How do we need to entertain our 4 year old daughter without TV and gadgets?

When you move to Chennai, right from the beginning, there will be lot of household work in unpacking and arranging things in the house. The best way to engage the child will be in including her in day to day daily activities. The child's need to spend time with her peers is taken care at the school where there is a mixed age group of children. This will take care of her social needs. Meeting and greeting new neighbours on a regular basis may also give scope for new friendships. It is important to understand that this child in the first plane is ever-working on his/her development. They are not looking to spend time with friends or pass time. The development happens wherever they are and whatever they do. It is best supported at home as this early development is towards the adaptation and independence in society. The child needs to become independent with regard to care of self (cleaning, cooking, washing, grooming, dressing, etc.), and in the care of environment (taking care of things needed for her). She also develops the way in which she behaves with peers and other members of the family. So she/he works on all of this to construct her/himself.

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